I came across a really funny picture of a girl making a "gross" face, at the top it read 'when he's shorter than you'. Hilarious, I laughed so hard because it is so true. We ALL judge each other and don't you even lie about it either. Everybody is judging the shit out of you the instant they see you or hear you speak. Now my problem with this picture is if a guy posted that same face saying something about seeing an 'angled picture' but finding out she is fat. He would get ATTACKED and that is what's not fair.
A guy can't help that he is short but you ladies can help yourself by not eating so many damn Twinkies for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I may not be politically correct saying anything that I am about to say but I am so tired of hearing these same women posting those hilarious pictures wanting equal rights and to be treated fair. If you want to be treated fair then you need to start showing men the same respect you want. Treat men the same way you would want your son treated by another woman.
Let me shock you all for just a minute here... you would not last a second in a man's shoes and you don't belong there. Men and women are so very different in everything so I can not understand why women think they should run for president of this country or join a football team of all boys. Now, don't get me wrong I want to be treated like an equal and have a fair chance at most things a man can do but damn there are just some things that men do better than women. At the same time there are things a women can do better than a man, like complain about everything!
I love being a lady. I love pretending I can't open a jar hoping to make my man feel special for helping me. I love when a guy pulls me close while out in public to 'protect' me from others. I love men opening the door for me. I love a man letting me walk in first somewhere. I love the idea of being a 'trophy wife' that does not offend me at all so why does it offend others? I embrace being a women and I'm not afraid to admit that I can't do everything a man can.
I can't wait to be a wife one day and cook my man a meal every damn day even though it will taste like cardboard (maybe I should take some cooking classes before I attempt that one.) I can't wait to take care of my man. I can't wait to be slapped on the ass randomly. I can't wait to be treated like a woman because I damn sure don't want the same responsibilities a man has. And I can't wait to see how many friends I may lose over saying these things.
Peace out, homies.
Thursday, August 20, 2015
Friday, July 24, 2015
An Open Letter
One of life's biggest mysteries - why do parents abandon their children? Selfish, is the only thing I can come up with. I can remember this very distinctive feeling of guilt consume me for about a month when Logan was away with her dad and I had some adult time to myself. I felt so guilty for having fun without her. WHY!? She is being taken care of by her dad and he has just as much responsibility as I do. Something to do with being a mother, I assume. So how can some parents not care?
They could go weeks without communication, not knowing if the kid they made is dead. Mothers choose men over their children and it's fucking disgusting. Sadly, I have seen more abandonment from mothers. You carry the baby for 9 months, feel them kick, hiccup and move around - I cannot wrap my head around it.
So here is my open letter to all the moms that abandon their children.
Dear Moms,
I am sure you are dealing with your own demons and I am sorry for that. My only hope is that you can find the help you need before it's too late. Life isn't going to wait for you. It's time to recognize your faults, own them, and fix them. Stop bringing my family into your problems. I used to feel sorry for you, make excuses for you, lie for you, and defend you until I was blue in the face but now I will no longer do that. A part of me will always wish for you to be who I think you should be as a mom but it's seriously screwing with my head. Also, I haven't been given nearly enough credit to the mom that took the place of you for fear of hurting your feelings. (Shout out!) I feel that most children who have been abandoned hold on so tightly to the hope that they'll be magically rescued by the very person that left them. Fortunately, for myself, at 26 I can let it gooooo and be thankful I have a mother figure who I can share my ridiculousness with. In closing, I wish the best for you and pray that you will one day look back and accept the horrible mistakes you've made and then move forward and stop repeating these same mistakes.
Sincerely,
Your Daughter That Rose Above Your Bullshit
They could go weeks without communication, not knowing if the kid they made is dead. Mothers choose men over their children and it's fucking disgusting. Sadly, I have seen more abandonment from mothers. You carry the baby for 9 months, feel them kick, hiccup and move around - I cannot wrap my head around it.
So here is my open letter to all the moms that abandon their children.
Dear Moms,
I am sure you are dealing with your own demons and I am sorry for that. My only hope is that you can find the help you need before it's too late. Life isn't going to wait for you. It's time to recognize your faults, own them, and fix them. Stop bringing my family into your problems. I used to feel sorry for you, make excuses for you, lie for you, and defend you until I was blue in the face but now I will no longer do that. A part of me will always wish for you to be who I think you should be as a mom but it's seriously screwing with my head. Also, I haven't been given nearly enough credit to the mom that took the place of you for fear of hurting your feelings. (Shout out!) I feel that most children who have been abandoned hold on so tightly to the hope that they'll be magically rescued by the very person that left them. Fortunately, for myself, at 26 I can let it gooooo and be thankful I have a mother figure who I can share my ridiculousness with. In closing, I wish the best for you and pray that you will one day look back and accept the horrible mistakes you've made and then move forward and stop repeating these same mistakes.
Sincerely,
Your Daughter That Rose Above Your Bullshit
Thursday, July 16, 2015
Random & Free: It Has Never Felt So Good
Hey! It's been a while since I have shared my thoughts. For once, I won't be complaining. Yippie! Most of you already know that I have moved to San Antonio about a year ago. My parents moved here about five years ago and as much as I adore them I never thought that I would make the move myself. Well I did and could not be happier. I do miss my dear friends in McKinney (Courtney Lilly & Chelsea Noble) but it was a great move for my daughter and I. We've both grown so much in such little time. I have become more confident in myself and finally stopped settling. Logan has broken out of her quiet little shell and has been enjoying the country living. It's wonderful!
After high school I thought I was grown and was responsible but I've learned so much these past few months about myself, that had I taken the time to figure out at eighteen, it would have saved me a ton of heartache. Of course, everything I have gone through has made me stronger, better, tougher and blah blah blah, but damn some of the things I did or said... has left me scratching my head wondering what the f$#k was I thinking. Oh well, I am moving on from that. I am done reliving those moments in my head. Twenty-six has never felt so amazing. I can do anything I want, except get more tattoos (my parents sure do have a way of creeping into my head when I make life decisions lately, but for that I am thankful) or fly to Mexico on a three day weekend but who cares, we are truly happy.
Letting go of my past. Letting go of the negative people. Letting go of hurt. Letting go of the pain. All I can do is pray for you.
Side note: Who else is happy that we will have a new president in 480 days, give or take?
After high school I thought I was grown and was responsible but I've learned so much these past few months about myself, that had I taken the time to figure out at eighteen, it would have saved me a ton of heartache. Of course, everything I have gone through has made me stronger, better, tougher and blah blah blah, but damn some of the things I did or said... has left me scratching my head wondering what the f$#k was I thinking. Oh well, I am moving on from that. I am done reliving those moments in my head. Twenty-six has never felt so amazing. I can do anything I want, except get more tattoos (my parents sure do have a way of creeping into my head when I make life decisions lately, but for that I am thankful) or fly to Mexico on a three day weekend but who cares, we are truly happy.
Letting go of my past. Letting go of the negative people. Letting go of hurt. Letting go of the pain. All I can do is pray for you.
Side note: Who else is happy that we will have a new president in 480 days, give or take?
Wednesday, June 24, 2015
5 Things You Need To Know Before Dating A Single Mom
This is more if you date me, not everyone has the same story, but I imagine that parents all have these same thoughts, feelings or rules. I have been blessed with a beautiful, unique and silly daughter and fortunately when you date me I come as a package deal. Sadly, I have run into quite a few mishaps when I have dated someone, so I decided to tell you 5 things you need to know before dating a single mom like me.
- Her dad is in the picture, we get along very well. I am not sure if that may be an intimidation factor but come to find out that seems to scare boys. If you can't accept a situation where mom communicates with the child's dad and has to sometimes be around him during birthday parties and school events, then sorry Charlie. We are a team and in order for our daughter to grow and not be mentally screwed up, then we have to work together.
- Her needs come before my own needs, therefore her needs definitely come before your needs. No, I won't be going out when she goes to sleep because I choose to be there for those 3:00AM scares when she hears a monster or the times when she wakes up with a stomach ache.
- I want to hear your thoughts and opinions. I am not one to say my way or no way but just know ultimately I will have the last word. Her dad and I will decide how we discipline and raise her, however the man that is lucky enough to marry me, will be able to join our parenting team and help decide on how to raise her.
- My judgement on who will get the opportunity to be around her hasn't been that good in the past but that has changed. Nothing you say or do will ever make me feel comfortable with you being around her for a while; at least 10 years. No, not really, but when the time is right, I will let you know.
- When it comes to dating and going out, it may be hard for you to understand but I live my life on grown up hours. I have a full time job and I am a mom. I don't get to spend enough time with my daughter so I value my time with her and like I said above, "Her needs come before my own needs, therefore her needs definitely come before your needs." So if we go out and I need to be home by 8pm to give her a bath, read her a story, and kiss her good night (and sneak in a few episodes of Dance Moms), then I hope you can understand but if not, sorry not sorry. As much as you want to get to know me, I want to get to know you just as much but I have to split my time.
Dating can be hard but I think it is so much harder for single moms. If you happen to find yourself a single mother who lives up to these values, then you have found someone you will never have to worry about when it comes to raising children, possibly your future children.
Saturday, June 20, 2015
Fuck Internet Dating
Fuck Tinder.
Fuck Match.com.
Fuck eHarmony.
Fuck FarmersOnly.
Fuckkkkkkkk Internet dating!!!
I'm challenging myself to meet someone via grocery store, library, mall, etc. My challenge will be taking advantage of seeing someone in person, walking up to them and starting a conversation. So Stone Age...(I know). I am getting up to my head mother flippin' annoyed finding a date from a damn website. I want to feel my heart beat in my throat and feel my face flush by actual human interaction. And for fuck's sake I don't want to text all day! I don't need constant communication with someone I just met. I want to get to know someone slowly, you know, be excited to see him and learn little quirks like how they chew food cause if it's loud that ain't gonna sail this ship. Does he play air drums or strum the air guitar to Luke Bryan? Cause swoon. Heart eyes emoji.
Maybe it really is me... I could be totally insane for wanting something that matures over time, like over at least a month. Shit, I am in and out of a relationship before the milk in my fridge expires. I can't understand anyone that doesn't enjoy some alone time. My favorite time of the day is when I get home, turn on the television and see Abby Lee Miller yelling at children. We all have guilty pleasures and one of mine involves going to Mickey D's, cracking jokes with my mom while sneaking Dr. Pepper in the house and hiding them from my dad who is trying to stop the addiction. Please, I don't want to explain that I didn't answer my phone for that 5 minute trip. FACK!
Who knows, maybe I will meet someone that I will want to spend every waking minute with but until then I'll be stalking the isles of HEB.
Fuck Match.com.
Fuck eHarmony.
Fuck FarmersOnly.
Fuckkkkkkkk Internet dating!!!
I'm challenging myself to meet someone via grocery store, library, mall, etc. My challenge will be taking advantage of seeing someone in person, walking up to them and starting a conversation. So Stone Age...(I know). I am getting up to my head mother flippin' annoyed finding a date from a damn website. I want to feel my heart beat in my throat and feel my face flush by actual human interaction. And for fuck's sake I don't want to text all day! I don't need constant communication with someone I just met. I want to get to know someone slowly, you know, be excited to see him and learn little quirks like how they chew food cause if it's loud that ain't gonna sail this ship. Does he play air drums or strum the air guitar to Luke Bryan? Cause swoon. Heart eyes emoji.
Maybe it really is me... I could be totally insane for wanting something that matures over time, like over at least a month. Shit, I am in and out of a relationship before the milk in my fridge expires. I can't understand anyone that doesn't enjoy some alone time. My favorite time of the day is when I get home, turn on the television and see Abby Lee Miller yelling at children. We all have guilty pleasures and one of mine involves going to Mickey D's, cracking jokes with my mom while sneaking Dr. Pepper in the house and hiding them from my dad who is trying to stop the addiction. Please, I don't want to explain that I didn't answer my phone for that 5 minute trip. FACK!
Who knows, maybe I will meet someone that I will want to spend every waking minute with but until then I'll be stalking the isles of HEB.
Wednesday, June 3, 2015
To The Guy That Always Comes Back
To that guy,
We go from going on a few great dates, getting to know each other and then to a complete halt. First I want to thank you by giving me something to blog about and second I want to know why? What happened? Did my stubborn ways of going after what I want scare you? Was I not spreading my legs fast enough for you? Possibly my strong opinions intimidated you? Was it putting my child first or not being available for you at the drop of the dime? If any of those reasons were for the no call backs or texts then thank you for that. You saved me from what I am trying to get away from. I no longer need to waste my time on you. I will find that time I was wasting for someone that values my thoughts and opinions.
What I can say is, that it truly sucks when this happens. I began to wonder if I should keep my mouth shut more. I start to think that maybe the only reason a man wants to pursue me is for my looks. But that can't be it because they always come back. I get the text or phone call wondering how I have been or how my Jeep has been and that my friends... is a bunch of bullshit! So, ladies, if this happens to you, just remember all of the wonderful things that you and I have to offer to someone and whoever gets our hearts is going to be one lucky guy.
Sincerely,
That Girl Who Is Tired Of Your Bullshit
We go from going on a few great dates, getting to know each other and then to a complete halt. First I want to thank you by giving me something to blog about and second I want to know why? What happened? Did my stubborn ways of going after what I want scare you? Was I not spreading my legs fast enough for you? Possibly my strong opinions intimidated you? Was it putting my child first or not being available for you at the drop of the dime? If any of those reasons were for the no call backs or texts then thank you for that. You saved me from what I am trying to get away from. I no longer need to waste my time on you. I will find that time I was wasting for someone that values my thoughts and opinions.
What I can say is, that it truly sucks when this happens. I began to wonder if I should keep my mouth shut more. I start to think that maybe the only reason a man wants to pursue me is for my looks. But that can't be it because they always come back. I get the text or phone call wondering how I have been or how my Jeep has been and that my friends... is a bunch of bullshit! So, ladies, if this happens to you, just remember all of the wonderful things that you and I have to offer to someone and whoever gets our hearts is going to be one lucky guy.
Sincerely,
That Girl Who Is Tired Of Your Bullshit
Saturday, May 30, 2015
Suck It Up And Deal... Dress Codes Matter
Listen up kids, put away the kik, quit snap chatting, set your iPhone down, stop worrying if your eyebrows are on fleek, get rid of the booze and pot, shit is about to get real! I am not here to hate on y'all, but what the hell are y'all doing with your lives? I have seen videos fighting over petty shit. I have seen comments that make absolutely no sense... like are you drunk or high? I've seen videos of some smoking pot or taking shots. Think about how your mother or even grandmother would feel. Stop the madness!!
My rant here today will be the school dress code, it's a rule, right? Why do some of you fight the rules? Let me preface by saying that it will never end. Dress codes will never go away no matter the age. Someday, you'll get a job and guess what... there will be a dress code. Inevitably, you will attend a funeral... dress code. Maybe you are interviewing for a job... dress code! One day if you get enough money and want to eat at one of those fancy restaurants, guess what again.. dress freaking code! You cannot run from it.
Been there, done that. I hated dress codes in school. I couldn't find shorts to reach the end of my fingertips, I wanted purple hair, cute strapless sandals, it was hard enough to find a shirt long enough to cover my midriff when I raised my hands. I know, first world problems. And I'll be damned if I ever raised my voice when the teacher or principle told me I needed to change, it never crossed my mind to become defensive, or to cry poor me. I put on that long ass t-shirt, went back to class to get my learn on. And shame on your mamas for trying to defend you when you knowingly went against the dress code! Shame, Shame Shame, their mama is probably shaking their head at your mama for allowing you to go against the published rules.
I don't understand why children think they are better than rules. You are at school to learn, plain and simple. You are not there to worry about what's fair or that boys can't focus because your tits and ass are hanging out. I'd be staring at you too. What you need to worry about is shutting your mouth, learn about Quantum Physics, and get that diploma.
Save the butt shorts for non school hours and shutttttt up!
Been there, done that. I hated dress codes in school. I couldn't find shorts to reach the end of my fingertips, I wanted purple hair, cute strapless sandals, it was hard enough to find a shirt long enough to cover my midriff when I raised my hands. I know, first world problems. And I'll be damned if I ever raised my voice when the teacher or principle told me I needed to change, it never crossed my mind to become defensive, or to cry poor me. I put on that long ass t-shirt, went back to class to get my learn on. And shame on your mamas for trying to defend you when you knowingly went against the dress code! Shame, Shame Shame, their mama is probably shaking their head at your mama for allowing you to go against the published rules.
I don't understand why children think they are better than rules. You are at school to learn, plain and simple. You are not there to worry about what's fair or that boys can't focus because your tits and ass are hanging out. I'd be staring at you too. What you need to worry about is shutting your mouth, learn about Quantum Physics, and get that diploma.
Save the butt shorts for non school hours and shutttttt up!
Monday, May 11, 2015
Random Things That Piss Me Off
A rant if you will. Things that make my blood boil just a little more than normal. If you feel like this may be about you... it probably is and if you choose to get offended... well, that is up to you.
Labeling Your Child - More and more I am seeing people saying that their child has this or has that. Now I am no doctor but chances are your kid is probably being a little shit at the restaurant because A) You don't want to discipline them for fear of them hating you or B) Please see scenario A.
Cheer Mom's - Living vicariously through your teenager. What the fuck?! The mom wasn't popular in high school so the need to fit in with their teenager runs through their veins. They will do anything for the crown even kill someone. Google 'Willing to Kill: The Texas Cheerleader Story'! It's real.
Helicopter Parent - I'll admit it... I have been the helicopter mom. Of course, I worry about my daughter running down a rock hill full speed ahead because that is something you would never catch me doing, however I have made improvements. When we go to the park I am not as connected to her hip as I once was. I cut the umbilical cord 4 years after she was born! Learn to let go of your babies and let them have fun and get hurt and then when they get hurt, tell them to shake it off!
Sharing Too Much On Social Media - I know this girl who will post EVERYTHING on Facebook. Her baby daddy went to prison, he was cheating on her, she hated him, she loved him, he hit her, stole her car. She went into detail on everything she posted. I felt so embarrassed for her but more so for her children who will read it 15 years from now or much sooner. Aggravating as HELL!
Slow Drivers - You take a drivers test around 16 you learn that the left lane is at least 10 miles over the speed limit. Okay you don't learn that, but it's just a cardinal rule. My half mom is the worst. She isn't good with directions either. I have to believe she moved in with my Dad at 19 because she can't drive. Being the passenger in a vehicle as all the others drivers pass us I look down with shame. I know, I am a bitch and she will probably read this and then spit in my spaghetti but I will have deserved it.
Negativity - Debbie Downer's and Negative Ned's. Just go away.
People That Make You Feel Bad - You know those people they will say things like "you are so skinny" "how do you eat so much but don't gain weight?" Um because Jesus wanted me to eat a whole fucking pizza by myself and not gain weight...? STFU and let me eat my damn pizza.
The Pass-By Feel-Up - The guys that feel the need to rub up on me acting like there isn't much room to get by. I was at Home Depot a few weeks with my step mom getting a sprinkler and flowers. While standing at the check-out line this dude grazes my butt with his arm, he even went for round two on his way back out the store. Really, asshole?
Put Your Tit Up - What the hell is up with that? I have nothing against breastfeeding but really do you have to post the picture of it happening? "Oh look at me! I'm such a good mom" I don't want to fucking see that shit. Of course I will look at it! Who wouldn't? This generation is trying to prove too damn much. Ladies keep that shit private.
So You're Gay - Why do people feel the need to come "out of the closet"? Or make a special announcement at an award ceremony? Or hold a press conference? Or make a Youtube video about their "special announcement"? Nobody fucking cares! Just like nobody cares that I am not gay! What are you looking for? Acceptance? Well fucking accept that I am a girl who likes men.
Like I said above, if any of this offends you. Get the fuck over it!
Labeling Your Child - More and more I am seeing people saying that their child has this or has that. Now I am no doctor but chances are your kid is probably being a little shit at the restaurant because A) You don't want to discipline them for fear of them hating you or B) Please see scenario A.
Cheer Mom's - Living vicariously through your teenager. What the fuck?! The mom wasn't popular in high school so the need to fit in with their teenager runs through their veins. They will do anything for the crown even kill someone. Google 'Willing to Kill: The Texas Cheerleader Story'! It's real.
Helicopter Parent - I'll admit it... I have been the helicopter mom. Of course, I worry about my daughter running down a rock hill full speed ahead because that is something you would never catch me doing, however I have made improvements. When we go to the park I am not as connected to her hip as I once was. I cut the umbilical cord 4 years after she was born! Learn to let go of your babies and let them have fun and get hurt and then when they get hurt, tell them to shake it off!
Sharing Too Much On Social Media - I know this girl who will post EVERYTHING on Facebook. Her baby daddy went to prison, he was cheating on her, she hated him, she loved him, he hit her, stole her car. She went into detail on everything she posted. I felt so embarrassed for her but more so for her children who will read it 15 years from now or much sooner. Aggravating as HELL!
Slow Drivers - You take a drivers test around 16 you learn that the left lane is at least 10 miles over the speed limit. Okay you don't learn that, but it's just a cardinal rule. My half mom is the worst. She isn't good with directions either. I have to believe she moved in with my Dad at 19 because she can't drive. Being the passenger in a vehicle as all the others drivers pass us I look down with shame. I know, I am a bitch and she will probably read this and then spit in my spaghetti but I will have deserved it.
Negativity - Debbie Downer's and Negative Ned's. Just go away.
People That Make You Feel Bad - You know those people they will say things like "you are so skinny" "how do you eat so much but don't gain weight?" Um because Jesus wanted me to eat a whole fucking pizza by myself and not gain weight...? STFU and let me eat my damn pizza.
The Pass-By Feel-Up - The guys that feel the need to rub up on me acting like there isn't much room to get by. I was at Home Depot a few weeks with my step mom getting a sprinkler and flowers. While standing at the check-out line this dude grazes my butt with his arm, he even went for round two on his way back out the store. Really, asshole?
Put Your Tit Up - What the hell is up with that? I have nothing against breastfeeding but really do you have to post the picture of it happening? "Oh look at me! I'm such a good mom" I don't want to fucking see that shit. Of course I will look at it! Who wouldn't? This generation is trying to prove too damn much. Ladies keep that shit private.
So You're Gay - Why do people feel the need to come "out of the closet"? Or make a special announcement at an award ceremony? Or hold a press conference? Or make a Youtube video about their "special announcement"? Nobody fucking cares! Just like nobody cares that I am not gay! What are you looking for? Acceptance? Well fucking accept that I am a girl who likes men.
Like I said above, if any of this offends you. Get the fuck over it!
Sunday, May 10, 2015
Nobody Can Measure Up To Mr. Rick
I truly believe that no one is better than Mr. Rick, also known as my Dad. In my twenty-six years I have never seen him raise his voice. He is the type of man who doesn't fight. The kind of person who lives life to the fullest and nothing and I mean absolutely NOTHING can bring him down. Cancer? Nope he beat that like the champion he is. Fourth child having open heart surgery? Never did his strength waiver. Funny? Yes, I have to admit it. If he ever finds out that I wrote a post about him he will ask me who thought he was 'hot' from the picture that I have posted. Right now he is currently bringing up the memory of an ex of mine who threw his precious mason jars in the fire pit. (Stay tuned for that story it's the best one.)
My dad works hard everyday. He had a hernia once and went to work the very next day. I have seen him cry one time due to me being a hormonal teenage bitch a moment I wish I could erase. Once a week he gets an infusion to keep him healthy. Most people would use that as a way to get attention. He hates attention...unless it's a hot girl that is flirting with him. He won't let anything or anyone stop him from living.
He raised my brothers and I to work hard for everything. For my Sweet Sixteen his birthday gift to me was a brand new 2005 Jeep Liberty. He handed me the keys and said, 'Happy Birthday, go get a job' and if I made the payments the car was mine. So the next day I began working at a horrible Chinese restaurant. At sixteen having a job to pay for my car seemed ridiculous. All of my hard earned money was going towards a car payment. Today I am thankful for that. I work hard for everything I have and I never ask for a handout. This is a top quality of mine I feel good about.
If you ever get me on the topic of my dad I will talk your ear off. Proud and I ain't afraid to say that nobody will measure up to him.
Thursday, May 7, 2015
My 30 Day Hair Challenge
At one point in a girl's life you may hear her complain about her hair. You may hear such things like, 'it won't grow fast enough', 'I'm gonna chop it off!' or 'The weather is shit and I can't girl'. Genetically we are programmed to complain about things that we can't control. It is in our DNA.
Ladies, I don't know about you but I will never spend a crazy amount of money on my hair. I buy Herbal Essence Long Term Relationship Shampoo and Conditioner. Sadly, the longest relationship I've ever had was with my conditioner. I blow dry, straighten and sometimes curl it if I'm feeling extra lady like. Don't ask me what my natural hair color is because I have colored it every color in the rainbow. Here lately I have not been coloring it because I don't want to keep up with the maintenance and Lord knows I have a long list of other things I need to get done, like swiping left or swiping right.
Here is the list of things I have tried to help keep it healthy.
In an effort to grow my hair, I am taking a 30 Day Hair Challenge. Over the next thirty days I will not blow dry, straighten, or curl my hair. I will simply let it air dry. Today was the first day.
Over the next thirty days I hope to gain longer, stronger and beautiful hair. Maybe this will help me gain those qualities in a relationship. Are you up for my 30 day challenge?
Ladies, I don't know about you but I will never spend a crazy amount of money on my hair. I buy Herbal Essence Long Term Relationship Shampoo and Conditioner. Sadly, the longest relationship I've ever had was with my conditioner. I blow dry, straighten and sometimes curl it if I'm feeling extra lady like. Don't ask me what my natural hair color is because I have colored it every color in the rainbow. Here lately I have not been coloring it because I don't want to keep up with the maintenance and Lord knows I have a long list of other things I need to get done, like swiping left or swiping right.
Here is the list of things I have tried to help keep it healthy.
- Deep Conditioned (No complaints surprisingly)
- Biotin (Didn't last long)
- Cut it regularly myself (anything to save a penny)
- Gone a few days without washing it (Whoever can do this I am jealous)
- Coconut Oil (If you attempt this I suggest rinsing it out in the backyard)
In an effort to grow my hair, I am taking a 30 Day Hair Challenge. Over the next thirty days I will not blow dry, straighten, or curl my hair. I will simply let it air dry. Today was the first day.
Over the next thirty days I hope to gain longer, stronger and beautiful hair. Maybe this will help me gain those qualities in a relationship. Are you up for my 30 day challenge?
Monday, May 4, 2015
Blinded By Red Flags
I have to question myself. How do I miss these red flags? I truly believe at the beginning of my relationships I am blinded by love infatuation. Friends and family will question me and I will immediately become defensive. My best responses to my friends and family are, "You just don't know him" or my personal favorite is,"We all have a past and I shouldn't judge someone because of their past".
I have always been extremely I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T yet I still want someone to share life with and grow with me.Maybe I rush into things too quickly, but I want the fairy tale so badly that I will let things slide. Each relationship that I end, it starts to take away a part of me that is good. which is the caring side. On a scale of a little crazy to out of your mind, this next boy would fall into the category of insane! Let's call him, Jason. Jason could be described as a moocher, insecure, aggressive and manipulative.
We met through mutual friends and growing up in a small town, everybody knows everybody. It was more of a Kindergarten crush. He wore cowboys boots, starched jeans, button up shirts, and drove a really nice truck. The whole "Cowboy Package" makes me silly in the head. Jason lived with his parents (red flag) and he had the dramatic stories of "every girl cheats on me" (red flag). I let him stay at my house and he slowly started to leave his things at my castle (red flag). I told him that I didn't want him staying at my house every night and he took the news surprisingly well. Cool! He gets it. He understands I enjoy my alone time. So far, so good.
So one night we get invited to go see a small country band that played at a local bar we frequented. How fun, right? Enjoying my adult time, drinking some adult beverages, this is golden. He is talking to people, I am talking to people. Everything in the small town of McKinney, Texas was fabulous, until... I gave this guy a hug. Jason FREAKED. OUT! Storming up to me very heated, he yanked my arm, while rudely interrupting me and telling me that I wasn't aloud to talk to any guys while calling me all the derogatory names you can call a female. Standing there, I was shaking from anger because he had just put his hands on me and had embarrassed me in front of a family member. Yes you read that right, it was a family member. The guy I gave a hug to was my uncle! As everything was going down I was trying to wrap my brain around the situation. I couldn't believe it! He was so angry and was yelling at me about how I was disrespecting him and all the embarrassment that I was causing him. At this point, I was just staring at him with disgust and at that moment I knew I had to end it. This was, once again, not my fairy tale ending.
The next morning, I woke up and once again realized I was blinded by red flags feeling defeated and ashamed. I had another failed relationship to add to the growing list. I am never ready to hear my parents or friends say the dreaded words, "We told you so", but like a big girl, I had to put my big girl panties on and take it. Cause ain't nobody got time for controlling assholes and I should have listened to my friends and family in the first place!
I have always been extremely I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.E.N.T yet I still want someone to share life with and grow with me.
We met through mutual friends and growing up in a small town, everybody knows everybody. It was more of a Kindergarten crush. He wore cowboys boots, starched jeans, button up shirts, and drove a really nice truck. The whole "Cowboy Package" makes me silly in the head. Jason lived with his parents (red flag) and he had the dramatic stories of "every girl cheats on me" (red flag). I let him stay at my house and he slowly started to leave his things at my castle (red flag). I told him that I didn't want him staying at my house every night and he took the news surprisingly well. Cool! He gets it. He understands I enjoy my alone time. So far, so good.
So one night we get invited to go see a small country band that played at a local bar we frequented. How fun, right? Enjoying my adult time, drinking some adult beverages, this is golden. He is talking to people, I am talking to people. Everything in the small town of McKinney, Texas was fabulous, until... I gave this guy a hug. Jason FREAKED. OUT! Storming up to me very heated, he yanked my arm, while rudely interrupting me and telling me that I wasn't aloud to talk to any guys while calling me all the derogatory names you can call a female. Standing there, I was shaking from anger because he had just put his hands on me and had embarrassed me in front of a family member. Yes you read that right, it was a family member. The guy I gave a hug to was my uncle! As everything was going down I was trying to wrap my brain around the situation. I couldn't believe it! He was so angry and was yelling at me about how I was disrespecting him and all the embarrassment that I was causing him. At this point, I was just staring at him with disgust and at that moment I knew I had to end it. This was, once again, not my fairy tale ending.
The next morning, I woke up and once again realized I was blinded by red flags feeling defeated and ashamed. I had another failed relationship to add to the growing list. I am never ready to hear my parents or friends say the dreaded words, "We told you so", but like a big girl, I had to put my big girl panties on and take it. Cause ain't nobody got time for controlling assholes and I should have listened to my friends and family in the first place!
Sunday, May 3, 2015
Top 10 Reasons Why Dating Sucks
What can I say? Dating SUCKS! Times have changed and it seems like dating has turned into a bigger game than it used to be. I am not sure if it is my generation or how it is now the norm to find a date via the worldwide web or an app such as Tinder or Match.com. Is it me? Am I doing it wrong? Why does dating have to suck? Here are my top 10 reasons why dating sucks! Let me know if I missed anything.
1. The Awkward First Date: Why does it have to be awkward? We all know going in that we want to impress. Honestly I don't want to go to dinner and order a salad for the fear of stuffing my face too much. But we all go with the salad or the thing that won't get you messy. Who will pay? Do we split the bill? Do I grab my wallet with intentions on paying but hoping that HE is a MAN and he will pay?
2. The Actual Date: Where do we go? Why does it have to be so impressive? The craving of Mexican food but knowing it doesn't sit well most of the time. It would be awesome to skip all the 'firsts' and go straight to enjoying the company of one another.
3. The "What are we?" talk: So things are going good, you've been on a few dates. You want to know that you're the only one he has eyes for, BUT you don't want to be that girl who seems needy.
4. Did he Really Try to Kiss Me: WHAT THE HELL? A lady never kisses on the first date. Call me a prude all you want but I will make you work for what I have to offer.
5. Finding the Datable: It's not like it used to be. The normal is now scrolling through pictures, reading a little blurb about them and wondering if they just want your goodies. Basically what are their intentions?
6. The "What do you do for fun?"question: ERRMM really? Did you really just ask me that? I like to go on long walks at the beach while hearing you recite love poems.
7. The Games: Am I supposed to wait to respond three days after the date? WHY WHY WHY? Why is this a thing? I shouldn't be worried that you will think I am 'crazy' because I respond and show interest immediately. We are on a time clock here and I could be gone tomorrow. Waiting games SUCK.
8. I'm Just Not into You: This doesn't mean I am a bad person. I may not be as into World of Warcraft as you are and that is okay.
9. The "Oh Shit, What Did I Get Myself Into?": You know? The part where he tells you that he has four kids from all different ladies or that he is 32 and lives at home with his mama. Yet you just got started on the date.
10. The Awkward Ending of the Date;
Me: "I had a great time with you tonight!"
Date: "Yes, I had such a lovely time"
Me: "I would love to see you again"
Date: "Me too!"
Walks into my house thinking am I really going to see him again? Did he really have fun or is he just being nice?
Me: "OMG I am terrible at this! Where is my fairy God Mother at when I need her?"
I absolutely hate these things about dating. Can you add to my top 10 reasons why dating sucks?
1. The Awkward First Date: Why does it have to be awkward? We all know going in that we want to impress. Honestly I don't want to go to dinner and order a salad for the fear of stuffing my face too much. But we all go with the salad or the thing that won't get you messy. Who will pay? Do we split the bill? Do I grab my wallet with intentions on paying but hoping that HE is a MAN and he will pay?
2. The Actual Date: Where do we go? Why does it have to be so impressive? The craving of Mexican food but knowing it doesn't sit well most of the time. It would be awesome to skip all the 'firsts' and go straight to enjoying the company of one another.
3. The "What are we?" talk: So things are going good, you've been on a few dates. You want to know that you're the only one he has eyes for, BUT you don't want to be that girl who seems needy.
4. Did he Really Try to Kiss Me: WHAT THE HELL? A lady never kisses on the first date. Call me a prude all you want but I will make you work for what I have to offer.
5. Finding the Datable: It's not like it used to be. The normal is now scrolling through pictures, reading a little blurb about them and wondering if they just want your goodies. Basically what are their intentions?
6. The "What do you do for fun?"question: ERRMM really? Did you really just ask me that? I like to go on long walks at the beach while hearing you recite love poems.
7. The Games: Am I supposed to wait to respond three days after the date? WHY WHY WHY? Why is this a thing? I shouldn't be worried that you will think I am 'crazy' because I respond and show interest immediately. We are on a time clock here and I could be gone tomorrow. Waiting games SUCK.
8. I'm Just Not into You: This doesn't mean I am a bad person. I may not be as into World of Warcraft as you are and that is okay.
9. The "Oh Shit, What Did I Get Myself Into?": You know? The part where he tells you that he has four kids from all different ladies or that he is 32 and lives at home with his mama. Yet you just got started on the date.
10. The Awkward Ending of the Date;
Me: "I had a great time with you tonight!"
Date: "Yes, I had such a lovely time"
Me: "I would love to see you again"
Date: "Me too!"
Walks into my house thinking am I really going to see him again? Did he really have fun or is he just being nice?
Me: "OMG I am terrible at this! Where is my fairy God Mother at when I need her?"
I absolutely hate these things about dating. Can you add to my top 10 reasons why dating sucks?
Friday, May 1, 2015
Are you a humble brag?
When you see a homeless person do you try to give what you can? If you see someone is being picked on, do you stop and help? Do you help the elderly? Have you gone out of your way to open the door for someone? Have you ever paid for a strangers drink or food? Picked up a hitchhiker? Paid a tab for somebody in the military? Have you ever tipped your server more than 20%? Saved a life?
If you can say yes to any of the above, here is what I have to say to you. You're a wonderful person. It takes a special kind of human to go out of their way to do good for a complete stranger. Yes, you do deserve praise, but from who? Social media? Somebody that you are trying to impress? To help yourself feel better? All of which is just a little disheartening in my opinion. Why do you need to advertise the good things you've done? Boasting about yourself is begging for praise when the whole idea of giving is to lend a helping hand. That's all it is. When you give somebody something it should be a selfless act. Actions speak louder than words. So why brag about it? Why make it your Facebook status or Tweet it? It's an act of kindness, not a 'look at me, look what I did.'
All I can hope from this post is that you will rethink your acts of kindness.
Are you a humble brag?
Wednesday, April 29, 2015
Jamaican Me Crazy
In my younger years I have danced with the devil and dealt with quite a few fires in my life. For each fire and each devil that I have danced with, I have learned quite a bit. This one starts out pretty awesome, but like every great beginning comes a horrible flaming ending... Is that how the saying goes?
First, let me clarify by stating that names will be changed so if YOU happen to read this, John, you may find that I have changed your name to John mostly for your protection.
John was such a great guy. He showered me with compliments, gifts and even a trip to beautiful Jamaica. I even got a really fancy expensive toothbrush. You know the one that spins a million miles a minute and is also equipped with a teeth whitening function. Thanks to John, my dentist is extremely happy.
It was safe to say I was pretty happy with this particular Prince, but as the days changed into weeks and the weeks turned into months he started to ask me to sext him. Now some girls may like sending a nip here and there but I do know that humans can sometimes be horrible. What if he was mad at me one day and as I'm driving down the highway jamming to some Josh Abbott, minding my own business and there on a billboard was my nipple. Here is where the smoke formed. John didn't realize he was dealing with a Princess. Last I checked Cinderella was not ripping her bra off and sending sexts to Prince Charming. Instead of being pissed off at John I gave him reasons why I was not comfortable taking pictures of my naked parts and sharing them with him via electronically. A few examples that I gave him were that my parents raised me better than that, I didn't feel comfortable and that I didn't want my goodies to be shared over the internet.
Sadly, I believed that John understood where I was coming from. Little did I know, eventually he would ask another girl for nudes. I have to admit that I was heartbroken. Looking back on that relationship I learned no matter how much pressure someone puts on you, you should always stand up for what you believe in.
As you can see this didn't end up to be My Fairy Tale Ending.
First, let me clarify by stating that names will be changed so if YOU happen to read this, John, you may find that I have changed your name to John mostly for your protection.
John was such a great guy. He showered me with compliments, gifts and even a trip to beautiful Jamaica. I even got a really fancy expensive toothbrush. You know the one that spins a million miles a minute and is also equipped with a teeth whitening function. Thanks to John, my dentist is extremely happy.
It was safe to say I was pretty happy with this particular Prince, but as the days changed into weeks and the weeks turned into months he started to ask me to sext him. Now some girls may like sending a nip here and there but I do know that humans can sometimes be horrible. What if he was mad at me one day and as I'm driving down the highway jamming to some Josh Abbott, minding my own business and there on a billboard was my nipple. Here is where the smoke formed. John didn't realize he was dealing with a Princess. Last I checked Cinderella was not ripping her bra off and sending sexts to Prince Charming. Instead of being pissed off at John I gave him reasons why I was not comfortable taking pictures of my naked parts and sharing them with him via electronically. A few examples that I gave him were that my parents raised me better than that, I didn't feel comfortable and that I didn't want my goodies to be shared over the internet.
Sadly, I believed that John understood where I was coming from. Little did I know, eventually he would ask another girl for nudes. I have to admit that I was heartbroken. Looking back on that relationship I learned no matter how much pressure someone puts on you, you should always stand up for what you believe in.
As you can see this didn't end up to be My Fairy Tale Ending.
Tuesday, April 28, 2015
Not My Fairy Tale Endings
Hey y'all, I'm Jenna and I am the oldest of 7. If you caught all of us in the same room, you'd hear laughing, yelling and a lot of cursing. You might feel tension and awkwardness, but you would also feel so much love. I come from the type of family where we make fun of each other, yet support each other. We will let each other know when one of us is screwing up and we always make sure to remind them each time we talk to them. I have to admit that I am the main one screwing up, hence the title of my blog,'Not My Fairy Tale Endings'.
Lately I have been contemplating my life and asking myself,"What am I doing?". I keep asking myself why I give chances to losers and if I am being the best mother that I can be? What can I do better? Where can I find my Prince Charming? I believe that everyone has these type of thoughts. Part of the reason for this blog is to document and remind myself of the not so great decisions I have made, learn from these not so great decisions and hopefully entertain you while I make fun of myself.
Now, it's time for me to put my big girl panties on and hopefully you are ready for my roller coaster of a life I want to share with you all.
Lately I have been contemplating my life and asking myself,"What am I doing?". I keep asking myself why I give chances to losers and if I am being the best mother that I can be? What can I do better? Where can I find my Prince Charming? I believe that everyone has these type of thoughts. Part of the reason for this blog is to document and remind myself of the not so great decisions I have made, learn from these not so great decisions and hopefully entertain you while I make fun of myself.
Now, it's time for me to put my big girl panties on and hopefully you are ready for my roller coaster of a life I want to share with you all.
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