5 Things You Need To Know Before Dating A Single Mom

This is more if you date me, not everyone has the same story, but I imagine that parents all have these same thoughts, feelings or rules. I have been blessed with a beautiful, unique and silly daughter and  fortunately when you date me I come as a package deal. Sadly, I have run into quite a few mishaps when I have dated someone, so I decided to tell you 5 things you need to know before dating a single mom like me. 

• Her dad is in the picture, we get along very well. I am not sure if that may be an intimidation factor but come to find out that seems to scare boys. If you can't accept a situation where mom communicates with the child's dad and has to sometimes be around him during birthday parties and school events,  then sorry Charlie. We are a team and in order for our daughter to grow and not be mentally screwed up, then we have to work together. 

• Her needs come before my own needs, therefore her needs definitely come before your needs. No, I won't be going out when she goes to sleep because I choose to be there for those 3:00AM scares when she hears a monster or the times when she wakes up with a stomach ache. 

• I want to hear your thoughts and opinions. I am not one to say my way or no way but just know ultimately I will have the last word. Her dad and I will decide how we discipline and raise her, however the man that is lucky enough to marry me, will be able to join our parenting team and help decide on how to raise her.

• My judgement on who will get the opportunity to be around her hasn't been that good in the past but that has changed. Nothing you say or do will ever make me feel comfortable with you being around her for a while; at least 10 years. No, not really, but when the time is right, I will let you know.

• When it comes to dating and going out, it may be hard for you to understand but I live my life on grown up hours. I have a full time job and I am a mom. I don't get to spend enough time with my daughter so I value my time with her and like I said above, "Her needs come before my own needs, therefore her needs definitely come before your needs." So if we go out and I need to be home by 8pm to give her a bath, read her a story, and kiss her good night (and sneak in a few episodes of Dance Moms), then I hope you can understand but if not, sorry not sorry. As much as you want to get to know me, I want to get to know you just as much but I have to split my time.

Dating can be hard but I think it is so much harder for single moms. If you happen to find yourself a single mother who lives up to these values, then you have found someone you will never have to worry about when it comes to raising children, possibly your future children.